Number six. This last one is huge. For years it’s been accepted, that it’s OK for boys to have sex with girls, to be dominant and take what they want at any and all ages, but it’s inappropriate for girls to have the same sexual urges.
And unfortunately, in our society, many boys grow up with the idea that they’re the ones in control, and girls should do what the boys want them to do, if they want to be liked, or if they want to be in a relationship with them.
This has to be shattered, and it either has to start in the home, or in the counselor’s office.
School systems are not equipped to do this. As I mentioned above most parents aren’t equipped to do this. But it must be done.
Sex education… Intimate education… Relationship education… What is appropriate in the world of dating… Needs to go into our mainstream, and that’s why I think the power of the #metoo movement can be to the advantage of parents, teachers, and counselors today.
Ever since this movement has come out, I have used articles in newspapers, clips from television shows, to explain to boys what happens when they become overly aggressive and don’t listen to a young girls pleas for him to stop.
I’ve also used the same articles, to educate young girls on the power to say no, to protect and respect their bodies, and to report any boy that is being sexually abusive to them, or sexually assaulting them, the day it happens, and not to let it simmer and sit underneath the surface for weeks, months, years or decades.
We need to take advantage of the current unfortunate situation of the #metoo movement, and use it as educational tools to educate our preteens and teens on what is appropriate and what is not appropriate in society.
Today is the day to start, not tomorrow.
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