Number three. No, means no. I know that’s an old saying but it’s one we’ve got to reiterate especially to our young men, that if a girl says no when you ask to kiss her, the answer is no.
We can’t come up with excuses like “well she dressed a certain way, or she held my hand, or she winked at me… ” Or some other justification, we actually have to listen to what a young girl is saying, and if you have preteen boys or girls this is crucial to get across to them.
Number four. For preteen or teenage girls, the same is true, and in the case of my client above, we have to be very direct when we tell our young daughters that encouraging boys to start at the simplest level of even a kiss before they’re ready, can lead them down a pathway that they may regret in the future.
And while I never had a chance to talk to the young girl who encouraged my client to touch her in an inappropriate place, I wish I could have. I would’ve loved to ask her a series of questions, regarding how she had that idea, was she ever touch there before, was it by an older adult, was it by a boy her age, did she watch a video where this was being demonstrated… In other words, I would love to know outside of her own simple sexual curiosity, what led her to encourage a young man to touch her in the places she wanted to be touched.
Understanding that, can really help us educate our children about the dangers that can happen out of a simple curiosity.