They were at a school outing and found a way to sneak from the crowd back onto the school bus where they were kissing each other for the first time. They both were getting extremely excited, and then she whispered in his ear to go ahead and touch her.
At first, he said no, but she was encouraging him to go ahead so he finally did. And when he did touch her in an inappropriate place, he immediately knew something was wrong.
He wasn’t ready for this, he didn’t even know what he was doing… Which started to create all kinds of anxiety in his mind and his body.
Within a few minutes, he told her he had to go, and got up and walked off the bus with her following him, asking him why he wouldn’t stay and continue what he was doing.
The minute he got home, he broke into tears and told his mother and father that he had done something wrong. When he explained what it was, that’s when their reaction went overboard.
But I actually understood his parents’ reaction, in the age of the #metoo movement, these are things that gets both boys and girls, young men and young women onto a pathway for problems not only in the present but down the road.
As I met with his parents, I told them that his shame and guilt, was actually a blessing, that they had raised him well, and this was not the time to scream and yell at him, but actually to talk to him about what he did, getting up and leaving, was the very best move he could’ve made.